Today I’d like to take you to your roots. Your body. Your self-love and why it’s supremely essential to love your body like you mean it.This post is for everyone who feels guilty for their imperfections, who wants to be perfect and who feels lost at the same time.
But first, I’d like to share my own story…
I’ve been there (and I still am from time to time). I used to throw a lot of hate at my body. It all started in primary school. I had some skin issues and I hated it. During the high school, I gained some weight and I hated it. Hated it so much that I developed a really unhealthy thinking pattern.
When it comes to food, weight, and emotions, it can be a vicious circle. During that time, my first serious relationship ended and I was living to my fullest (or I thought I was). Deep inside I felt a lot of pain which I didn’t let out because I was afraid to look weak or hopeless.
So I built a brick wall all around me and acted all happily. I was suppressing my emotions – the ones that wanted to be seen by others and wanted to come out in tears. So I ate – that’s how my body compensated it. I started to overeat on daily bases, felt tired and ashamed. When I started to gain weight (and I didn’t have any weight issues before EVER), I started dieting.
No, not the healthy dieting. I did some very bad stuff. Tried a meat-heavy South Beach Diet which ended at the point where I was walking around bloated with a huge stomach ache and discomfort.
Then I tried buckwheat diet where I ate, yup – only buckwheats. Don’t get me wrong – buckwheat is good for you, but not if you eat ONLY buckwheat. I was going to the gym at the same time and I completely lost all the energy.
And then I switched to a diet where I ate ONE fruit a day. One! I was pushing myself to exercise but I hated it. And I reached my lowest point when I started to Google illegal weight loss pills which can be very, very harmful for your health.
Looking back at this, it just seems crazy, but I was how it was. I was looking at skinny girls, feeling jealous and hating myself when I looked in the mirror. This self-hate journey continued. I went on a raw food diet, lost a lot of weight, felt happy. Then I went vegan, then vegetarian, gain back a lot of weight and the hate continued. But at one point things drastically changed.
About 4 years ago my anxiety disorder kicked in on a whole new level and I was having a very hard time to keep myself together. That’s when I made a mental switch in my head…
I wanted to eat nourishing foods and exercise for my HEALTH not for looking good or losing weight (although, both of these come as a bonus anyway).
This new statement completely changed things for me. I fell in love with yoga and jogging. I enjoyed eating healthy and I became aware of what my body truly wants. But most importantly, I realized that my body is my home. Literally. And how can you hate something that allows you to experience the beauty and love of life?
Your body WANTS you to live your life to its fullest. It wants you to be healthy. Each and every day it protects you and takes care of you. Why? So you can LIVE.
I suddenly realized all of this and became very aware that it’s time to fall in love with my body. Not in a narcissistic way, but it a self-respectful and holistic way.
So here are 5 things that you can do right now to thrive in your body like never before.
1. Have The Right Motivation
What I mean by this is that you should eat nutritious foods and exercise for your health and well-being, not for weight loss.
Seriously – don’t do it to be skinny or to look good (but, as I said, both of these come as a free bonus). Completely switch your motivation model. My anxiety played a huge role in it and together with exercise and vegan diet, it became more manageable.
Eat healthy and exercise for your body, its well-being and comfort. And it’ll say thank you each and every day.
2. Say Good Words To Your Body
I know, it may sound cliché, but saying good words to yourself and your body is essential.
If you’re like me, you’ve spent a lot of time mentally teasing your body. After a while, this may create an unhealthy thinking pattern or automatic thoughts that start repeating in your head and you’ll sink deeper and deeper into feeling unworthy.
It takes some time to get out of that pattern. And you can start by consciously saying nice things to your body. Notice the parts that you love the most – your hair, lips, beautiful curves or eyes. Look at yourself often and repeat phrases like I truly love myself or I’m beautiful just the way I am. Like every being in this world, your body needs love.
3. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
I know, it’s easier said than done. I compared myself to other girls for such a long time and felt terrible. Comparison is one of the worst things you can do to yourself.
Remember that we’re each different in a unique way. One of my friends is a tall model-like girl and I used to compare myself with her and felt bad about my body.
Yes, there are standards in our society, but don’t let them define you! After all, those standards change each year. In 50s thanks to Marilyn Monroe curvy girls were defined as sexy and beautiful.
4. How You Feel Is More Important Than How You Look
Remember this always – how you feel is way more important than how you look. You can be the most beautiful girl in the world but still feel miserable. Self-worth comes from within.
I had a good lesson with this and I have to say thanks to my anxiety. Because when you’re in a deep pain, you realize that your appearance not that important.
Feeling happy and worthy is what’s important. Notice the little things that make you happy every day and focus on them.
5. Be Grateful
I could talk about gratitude forever because it’s one of the key aspects of living a fulfilling and happy life. And the body is your one and only tool that allows you to experience the beauty of life.
Whenever you feel exhausted, tired or sad, take a moment and think about all the things that you’re grateful for. Or even better – make a daily gratitude your habit.
When you look at your life with gratitude filled eyes, you suddenly realize that everything you have is a gift. And it really is.
So, these are my 5 tips for you. Hope you found them inspiring.
Just remember to switch your motivation, practice saying nice things to your body, stop comparing yourself to other, focus on feeling good and be grateful for everything you have.
If you practice these tips, day by day you’ll feel better. And you’ll thrive in your body like never before. Promise. <3